I've been with girls who were aggressively anti-videogames, and I've been with girls who's videogame obsessions made me look normal, but personally I've enjoyed the gaming relationships better.

Actually, videogames are how I met my current girlfriend.

4 years ago my parents enrolled me and my younger brother into a daycare program held in the cafeteria after school (she worked late nights).

One day my while trying to do homework, my brother ran to me, asking me to help him get past a dungeon in Zelda: Phantom Hourglass.  After telling him to get lost because I was working on homework, he ran to this one girl who he had seen playing the game earlier.  Soon she had him beating the boss of the dungeon and showing him how to find several other hidden items in the game.  When by brother came to show me I had him take me to this mystery woman.  I tried to have her give tell me all the things she told my brother, but she said first I would have to beat her in a game of Super Smash Bros. Melee at her house.  I knew I could have just looked all of this up on the internet, but I never turndown a match of Smash Bros. (actually my inability to turn down Smash Bros. matches have gotten me into several weird possitions over the years).

Soon afterward we started hanging out more and more until we finally started dating sometime after entering highschool.

My brother ended up introducing me to several people while trying to get help on that game, all of whom are now close friends of mine.  Although nothing about the gameplay or story really intrigues me about Phantom Hourglass, it is for this reason that I say that it is my favorite Zelda game.

Im sorry if this story didn't have much to do with the question, but yea, I do prefer relationships where we both game, but it isn't the defining factor.

This was something I just thought of.  The world of Psychonauts.  I mean seriously, that's a cool world to be in.  Being able to go into other peoples minds and see there own mental worlds is pretty neat. 

Yes, Chrono Trigger does give a nostalgic feel even when you play it for the first time. (I myself haven't gotten around to playing it until about 2 in a half years ago.)

I don't get why anyone would want to live in Resident Evil.  I mean seriously, that is some scary $#!t.  I would love the portal world though.  I mean, yeah GLaDos is a sick tormenting Computer from Hell, but she's not gonna let you die.  Also, I think the Prison Break aspect of it helps.  that thrill of trying to escape.  Would I live there, no, but I wouldn't mind visiting for a bit. 

Considering I haven't been in a relationship for....well a couple of years, I'd say Not nessicaraly.  I would love for my future Girlfriend to have some interest in Video games, but its not gonna be a prerequisite.  Now, I will say she'd have to accept the fact that I myself do play video games and she cant be against them.   That's about all I can say on the subject.  thought, to be honest, and this thought just occurred, I'm pretty sure if she could accept the fact that I'm a nerd and love DnD, Board Games, Video games, and Magic the Gathering, then, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be against those things as well.  Man when I look at that list, I think, "Man how am I Still single." lol. 

I will say this as a side note, however, It seems to me, that my luck with women is pretty bad.  I mean its not that I get into a bad relationship, no not that at all.  It's just, every woman I take an interest in is already taken.   hell, even the gals I don't take interest in are taken.  I dunno, maybe its the area I'm in or the fact that there are few women in the area interested in gaming (To be honest I know of at least one case where the woman started playing because her Boyfriend was.  Ironically it was DnD. )

Is a man not entitled to the sweat of his brow?

NO says the man in Washington... it belongs to the poor.
NO says the man in the Vaticant... it belongs to God.
NO says the man in Moscow... it belongs to everyone.

Man, I love that spiel. Here's the mentioned Bathosphere intro: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVR2gZANx10

You got exactly what I meant Commodore. No shit for me, just the high life of a thriving underwater utopia. 

I thought about FFVII but, Midgar would be fun to visit. but really I decided on picking only one FF universe, and for me Blitzball wins out over Mako reactors.

Onto this weeks wringer.

I'm going to say both yes and no. Are video games a dating prerequisite? No. However. At least one aspect of my geekery really does need to be shared. Tabletop Gamer, Video Gamer, Anime... some common geek outlet. I would say yes. My reasons for this are actually quite simple. I'm not much of a 'go out' person. I mean I go to movies and such but really my interests lay with my geekery. So really if we're going to have something in common, odds are good, and best, that it have something to do with geekery.

To be honest Commodore, I've only had one really long term relationship and she was a gamer. Other than that it's all been flings and nonsense. I don't know if I'll ever "date" again, but if I do the woman would have to at least tolerate my lifestyle and preferences. That, of course, includes a love of gaming.

I've mentioned it before, but I don't generally care for "real" women. Give me vicarious anime/game/book fantasy over that anyday. :D

Uhh, kind of a personal one.

The answer seems obivous to me, but still I have to think about it... It's a little hard, because I don't want to put too personal information on the web.

Ok, obvious part first: Beeing a gamer is not an absolute prerequisite, but it helps. I guess it helps a lot.

There have to be some things in common, it doesn't necessarily have to be games.  But since I spend a considerable amount of time with games, it would be a great plus.

I like to spend time with people, who are similar to me. I can respect people who are very different from me, but I wouldn't want to spend too much time with them.

That beeing said, there has to be more than one thing in common: personality / way of thinking / way to see the world AND some of the hobbies.

But even if the date is a gamer, there might be huge differences in taste. I prefer games with bright colors and not too realisitc. If she was a WW2 fps gal, I would not count that as a real similarity. That would still be better than nothing, because one knows the same language, etc. However, I think that (her being into realistic games) is the least of my worries, because that's quite rare.

I am not married, btw.

I also have to mention that by "games" I always mean "video games" including pc and console games and in some occasions parlor games.

PS: Thanks for pronouncing my name correctly :)

Edit: Just read through the other comments, and I have to say, FinalFan777 I really enjoyed your story :)

Would it be a prerequisite?

No.

It is always helpful to have something like that in common, but not necessary.

If you set that as a condition of a relationship, you are creating the possibility of missing out on something that could be even better than gaming or general geekery.

The trick is to find someone that will tolerate or join you in your gaming but spark other interests as well .

From most of our viewpoints, we see gaming as part of who we are (I do), and there is nothing wrong with that.

But, what if you find something with someone else that is so awesome that you realize that gaming is just what you do to fill your time in life until you have found that thing?

Maybe you find that the greatest adventures you can have aren't in Kokiri Forest, but in your nearby National Park, or you find that the best FPS ever is at your local laser tag or paintball course. 

Or, just possibly, you find that raising Chocobos has absolutely nothing on raising your own kids.

Woo hoo! Commodore fell right in line with my answer on the video game world!

Ok, as for this week's question.

Remember the Rock Band Marathon? A lot of you (especially Corn Dog) made fun of me because my girlfriend wasn't going to let me donate and even hid my debit card to keep me from doing so. Or watch a lot of the time. Once during the marathon, she enticed me away from it with her feminine wiles (and I left the browser open while Boomer's wife was singing). She flat out didn't want me being a part of it. In her opinion, I was wasting my weekend.

Anyway, she and I aren't together anymore. Since I broke up with her in January, this is the longest I've ever gone in my entire life without a girlfriend. I've also been engaged twice. Not one of them has been a gamer. However, one girl I dated would occasionally play Wii Sports, but was so unbelievably bad at it you can't even believe.

One girl I dated, and is now my absolute best and oldest friend in the world, didn't care. She enjoyed watching anime, which I didn't, but no video games. Though now I am slowly getting back into anime (Cartoon Network destroyed any interest I had in it and I still won't watch any on that network).

So I'm not sure where to take this question. Sure, I'd like to date a girl who likes legitimate gaming and isn't fairweather or casual about it, but I'm realistic. I'm probably going to end up with a girl who's unbelievably driven and tries to fight me for the pants (which I always find, because undoubtedly that's my type), and I'm fine with that. I'm just sick of being blue these days.

BUT, I want to tell you all a story that does not have to do with me. Well, not me directly.

From 1990 to 1995, I lived in Oxford, Mississippi while my dad was going after his PhD and post doc. Home of the Universtity of Mississippi. It's about 45 minutes away from Memphis, Tennessee. One day, I'd gone to Memphis on a field trip and I met this girl named Claire. I wasn't attracted to her, nor she me, but she and I were good friends. Over time, Claire and I lost touch. Two years ago, she and I ran into each other on World of Warcraft. Turns out, we played on the same server and had even been in the same guild a few times without knowing it.

Now, on the other side of that coin, when I was in college at The University of Alabama, I worked with a guy named Matt at The Tuscaloosa News. He is from Memphis, as well. After he finished his master's program, he moved back to Memphis.

To this day, that is the only time I've ever attempted to get two people together. And it worked. Matt and Claire are engaged and I'm going to be a groomsman at their wedding in October. They're both equally as nerdy and their wedding is going to be themed-- Star Trek.

No shit.

The suits are the formal dress uniforms from Insurrection and the later seasons of DS9. I'm not sure what the girls are going to wear. The minister is going to dress like a vedic.

I somewhat resent my answer of Hyrule (or the Hyrule less chosen) being labelled as a "generic cop-out" when I would argue Ocarina's Hyrule as an answer is the cop-out.  This is due to Ocarina's status among fans as the unbeatable Zelda when games post-Ocarina have clearly done things bigger or better.  Look at the giant, empty circle that is Hyrule field in Ocarina vs the twisting pathways of Twilight Princesses for example.  Yes, great for it's time, but it's been improved upon.

But I digress...

Any hobby should be at least accepted by a partner or else there's not much basis for a relationship.  One doesn't have to be interested in the other's hobby, but they should at least enjoy that the other enjoys it.

When I was dating, I found that a positive mind to video games was indeed a good thing to have in a partner.  I have never dated anyone who was what I would call a full-fledged gamer though.  I don't believe this was a conscious decision, but rather a style of the times.  When I was dating, geek culture hadn't penetrated society as it has today.  So, finding a girl who would be into playing games beyond Super Mario Bros on their brother's NES wasn't easy to do. 

In hindsight, I'm glad that the girl I'm with isn't a out and out gamer though.  I think it's great to share common interests, but it's also great to have things you can do on your own. 

My girlfriend does enjoy playing co-op mode in Mario Galaxy with me, or the occasional Wii Sports, but doesn't do much beyond that.   She fully does support my love of gaming though, and actually has sat on the couch and watched me play games like Metroid Other M or Assassin's Creed II.  She finds certain games fascinating to watch, especially when it involves exploration.  She'd never pick up the controller to play herself though, but encourages me to play these games.  It was actually her who first forwarded me an email of a video a coworker of hers was watching showing the game mechanics of the first Assassin's Creed.  The message attached was "check this out -- this looks like something you'd enjoy playing".

She will also help me out in games in a way as well.  If I become frustrated in one and don't know what to do next, she'll actually look up hints online and deliver them to me in a non-revealing manner.  Such as "Why don't you go back and check around where the level started" or something to that effect.  She started doing this without my asking, which was really great.

So, if I had to go back and make a conscious decision about dating a gamer or not, I think I would still choose the level of gaming interest my girlfriend ended up displaying.  I didn't know this was her level of interest / involvement until some months after meeting her, but I would still think it's the best choice for me.  She's not against gaming, or has no interest, but she's not hogging the controller either.

Is gaming a prerequisite? Not really, but I would say it's a definite plus.

My first girlfriend liked to think that she was a gamer, and would always brag about playing games like Final fantasy 7, and I thought it was pretty cool, until she started getting mad about me playing games so much. Meh.

I would hope that my future wife was at least sort of a gamer, but if not, it's fine with me, I just hope she's fine with my gaming.

Umm... women interested in gamers? Damn you say --- 

That's all I got.

Yes, with a few exceptions.

I'll elaborate later. That's a placeholder until I can do so. :)

Not as a prerequisite.

I require general acceptance, she doesn't have to like it, but she shouldn't try to change me.

If it is really love, I think no one will hurt the other one by changing him.

So yeah, I try to keep acceptance for my counterpart, but she should accept me too, how I am and what I like.

So yeah, was fun, I hope you do this alot longer.

Btw: Why I choose Wh40k is: The World is always changing in Wh40k, worlds are burned down, and just watching the worlds change is a experience I believe. On the other side, being somekind of extremely powerful creature or vehicle would be awesome too, just letting your rage loose and bring havoc under the enemies is a awesome, but maybe not pure experience.

aw damn i missed a great wringer last week sorry commodore, know it wont get mentioned but just wanted to throw what i would have picked for the video game question mine would have been god of war series. great visuals and itd be awesome to watch kratos kicking ass but on to this weeks wringer:

while it was never necessary to meet a girl that was into games. it definitely helps lol. my ex gf was technically into video games but anything that took my attention away from her pissed her off and she couldnt stand it (mostly cause her brother is obsessed with video games and at the time could never press the pause button to do anything himself so i would tend to avoid playing games in front of her but later when i stopped giving a fuck she quickly realized i wasnt gonna be like that but it was too late at that point anyway but that relationship was messed up on so many levels but i digress) now my current gf is pretty awesome with video games, she likes to play games but can sometimes get intimidated playing  more modern games so she actually dosent mind watching me play. but with that said i never try to take advantage of that and am alwayz encouraging her to go through my snes/ nes collection for what she likes as she tends to prefer retro games to newer games (although she is quite heavily into fable 3 right now). and right now its pretty great, we both enjoy smoking a lil bit of pot, play some games or watch movies (shes mostly into action movies so thats a plus but she hates horror/suspense thrillers :( ) so it really helps when somone does share your interests (for the most part haha)

this is an interesting Weekly Wringer.

First off, I'm a fairly shy person. When in classes or social situations, I tend not to be the one to initiate conversations, unless I notice something about or related to someone in room I know I can talk about. So, in a sense, geeky things lead me to a lot of people I meet.

I haven't really been in many relationships, I just recently started working my way out of the closet, (it's not easy... but the more i work at it the more its a relief.) and that plus shyness and being easily embarassed hasn't left many opportunities for dating.

My first big relationship was with my best friend Gabby in high school, before i had some things figured out. She is probably the BEST RPG gamer i know. we both are RPG fiends, and whenever i couldn't get somewhere, or figure out a game secret, she as there to help. We could, (and still can) figure out whatever the other is thinking and can share endless conversations about many things, partly because we are interested in similar things and also because our interests shaped us to think alike.

My most recent (now ex,) boyfriend and I met in a journalism class because we both had Zelda keychains on our bags. he wasn't as into games as i was, and was on, a different branch of the anime-fan tree than me but it was cool. We didn't have a ton of things that were totally in common, but because our interests were close enough we could share and educate each other with out being uninterested in what we each had to say.

I guess, in short I would say sharing one branch of the nerd tree helps. all of my few successful relationships were that way. the ones that weren't.... well they crashed and burned for a reason.

 My full response here:

For me, it's like this: I absolutely have to have something significant in common with someone I am interested in to consider a permanent relationship. It doesn't have to be video games, but they definitely have to not be "anti-games." And some years ago, being "anti-game" was more common than neutrality. so that's probably why I decided it was important to me. I *would* go back and re-evaluate my stance, but I don't want to end up as one of those couples who don't have anything in common and just ignore each other while waiting for an affair to come along. And right now, video games are my most important hobby by far. I could see martial arts becoming that important at a later point, though. Science is also something I'm really interested in, but that's more a tool and way of thinking, not so much something that can help a relationship.

But there is a lot more that's important than just having a hobby. For instance, there's a gamer girl I know right now, and I'm unsure of her feelings. But even if she did like me... she has no thirst for life. That just wouldn't work for me. To me, I think the two most important values in a girl are that thirst for life, and strength of will. But after that, intelligence and sharing a hobby are important. I list intelligence after the first two because I think it will almost always follow from those, so it's not something I have to worry about.

It's not like I go on a lot of dates, so fortunately I don't have to make decisions about this kind of thing right now. It shouldn't be long now that I'll be living on my own and completely independent, though. And then I'll feel like I'd be ready to start finding a relationship. I guess we'll see how things go then.

So a girl to me has to:

1) Have a thirst for life. (This doesn't mean trying everything or getting hammered or partying, it just means what I said.)
2) Have a strong will.
3) Be intelligent (or strive for intelligence).
4) NOT be anti-gaming.
5) Share at least one major hobby with me, including gaming.
6) Be attractive to me.
7) Not be strongly religious in religions derived from or similar to Judeo-Christo-etco faiths.

So honestly, even being so non-specific in a few areas, I've got a looonngggg search ahead of me.

I'm drunk.

    First of all I just want to say what a pleasure it is to finally create an account on here after viewing and indulging in this site for two wonderful months after finding Roo's reviews on YouTube about four months ago or so now.  I really have enjoyed this site and I don't know why it has taken me this long to join but here I am now!  Nice to meet all of you!

    This Weekly Wringer like the "Playstation in Crisis" one are just fantastic, you really know what you are talking about without resorting to any poor ranting and raving about this or that little things.  I actually have sent many people from my work here to view your "Playstation in Crisis" Weekly Wringer to win arguments about who really one this generation for the consoles.  Thank you again for your wonderful videos, it's nice to have someone speak to you without putting in stupid comedic slams or jabs when they want to explain their points about things.

    I sadly missed my chance to speak about my favorite immersive videogame setting so I will not go on about it now as that topic is gone and missed but I did want to say this week's question was a very good topic!

    I used to think personally that it didn't matter to me so much if the person I dated was into videogames or not as long as we had enough other things we had in common to speak or do together but in the last four or five years now, I have really been more vocal on my girlfriend's being gamers in some way even if they just enjoy Facebook games.  As long as she likes to play some sort of digital entertainment, that is perfectly alright with me.

    As many have said on here now, I don't mind if we don't play together, so long as she accepts that it is something I enjoy to do.  I do have to say that she has to have an open minded about gaming in general to even be date worthy for me. I grew up in a very video game/technology loving family, all of family games in some way and we all do it fairly often, so to me being without a dating partner who likes to game is like losing an arm.  It just doesn't feel natural to me in any sense.

    I don't care what she likes to play or where she likes to play or for how long, so long as she is willing to want to game in some capacity, that is what is most important to me.  As long as I have the time to play either with her or by myself on the console's or handheld's, gaming is a big part of my life, so she has to be willing to let me indulge in that in some ways.

    I have a wonderful girlfriend now who is willing to try various games now because she cares about me so much and wants to partake in my world of who I am and in return, I will do the things she enjoys as well.  We both have an open mind about comprimising to each other's loves in life.  So to me, I have found that woman who wants to let me be who I am with gaming in my life and with hers now as well.  Not every woman wants to be the next Call of Duty player or Grand Theft Auto player but there are so many other wonderful titles she can play and choose from, one style of game will make her love to game as well!  Variety in gaming is what makes it fun for everyone, not just the hardcore set.

    That to me, is important that she is into gaming or at least the open mindedness of trying it.

Had I been to this site last week, I would have said FF7 assuming that I could weild a giant sword and use magic rocks to mame, kill, and utterly destroy any ignoramous dumb enough to upset me. If I can't have special abilities, then most of the games I play would be big no-no's due to the inherent danger of the worlds. If forced to choose one, then I would have to go with Fallout because despite it's dangers, I would be well equipped for survival between my intelligence and USMC training.

On to this weeks question. Although I can understand the desire to be able to share video games with my significant other, that was never a pre-requisite. One reason for this is that there aren't many attractive gamer chics that I've found in South Dakota. The other reason is that even though the fighting genre is one of my favorites, most of the games I play are single player. This means that we wouldn't typically be playing together. If my other half wanted to play the same game at the same time, we'd have to own 2 of each system and 2 of each game. I can't even afford to get one of each game I want. So in this respect, it's probably best that my wife's total gaming experience boils down to us playing a couple hours of Wii Resort and Mario Kart together and me trying to teach her to walk in a straight line in Spyro and Crash Bandicoot. Apparently she has the manual dexterity and coordination of a paraplegic. 

Actually, Glados would let you die. In fact, aside from letting you know that countless others have died in the process of the labs experiments, she tries to kill you and that's what causes your attempt to escape the lab.

Well I'm looking for the holy grail or a unicorn I think....

For this week's wringer question...

My first and foremost prerequisite is that my boyfriend be a Christian. If we aren't on the same or similiar pages spiritually, it's doomed to failure. This is my belief. I am a Christian and I can't see me hooking up with someone (for a long term relationship) who is anything but. So I narrow the gene pool down quite a bit with that first part.

I'm not looking for Prince Charming, but I am not one of those Christians who sees gaming as the devil (obviously) although I do find a lot of things in certain video games questionable or outright satanic. Obviously, I don't play those games. I have a high tolerance for fantasy, and I really do like my games that I do play.

So the answer to, is gaming a prerequisit? Yes and no.

Whoever I get together with has to at least tolerate the fact I'm a gamer. It's something I do but have been doing so long, I can't personally see me stopping it. Now, I think it is possible that if it really was Mr. Right I would give up games but... again, don't personally see it happening.

Ideally I would like whoever I'm with to be a competent gamer and able to give me a challenge in competetive games that we would both mutually enjoy. I do have a couple guys I've been interested in who are also gamers, but somewhat different genres from me. I also know from experience I wouldn't get along with a guy who's a sore loser.

Not a romantic relationship, but I do remember a male friend of mine brought over a SNES basketball game once, a game I'd never played. He brought a couple friends with him too and we played the game - I won. By five points. He was humiliated. I beat another guy years before in a boxing game on the NES and he punched me in the arm. And then there's the fact I have to tone down my fighting skill when playing my cousin or I slaughter him... and my friend Chris when we played DOA2....

...Um... wow, guys don't like being beaten in games by girls. Does this mean I'll be single forever? XD

Cool! It was a genuine honour to be mentioned by THE Commodore *ding-ding*... even if it was to disagree with me ^-^

I only just watched it today since I had a hellish week, but this Weekly Wringer was the highlight of my week! Many thanks [to The] Commodore!
Also, since the last Weekly Wringer I have been playing Half-Life 2 and HL2 Episode One since someone mentioned it. Thanks(!) :|


Video games has always been my "Water Cooler Talk" so I only seem to get on with people who also like (or can talk about) video games. Some of the best relationships are built on the conflicts such as Nintendo vs. Sony or Wesker vs. Kefka.
I have never had a Wesker vs. Kefka argument but... WESKER!!!

So I guess, as far as I am concerned, it would help to form a relationship with someone who understands video games, although it hasn't always been necessary.

PS: For statistical purposes, I am one of your international fans. London, England Baby!

*HUG*

A very long one this week, 30 minutes, always had to keep pushing it back but am finnally getting it done, I woke up 40 minutes ago, watched it and read comments before anyone even knows I'm awake. Anyway...

I am 14, and I have never actually dated anyone. Being in the 8th grade people taunt me for it even though I am in the majority. I am shy and do not get along with people I do not have a strong relationship with allready, so it is easier to get into these relationships with gaming. I would like to say being a gamer is not a requirement but it probably is for me. I had a dream once where I am just living my life in 20-30 years. I don't remember much, but I was married to a brunette with no kids. The only moment I remember was use in a room with a big table and 2 computers, sitting across like the back of my monitor touching the back of her monitor. We were playing TF2 and I remember us telling each other things to help like "The pyro coming up waterway is a spy" "They have a sentry gun next to the stairs, take the long way around" etc. etc. And I've never actually told anyone this, there was a girl I met online who introduced me to games like Touhou and TF2 (Which led me to valve and PC gaming in general) and I think I... might have fallen in love with her. And I'm pretty sure of it too because when I found myself thinking about her in normal day I was scared that I might have fallen in love with her, with someone I met online, but since I've considered the internet a great place to meet people since each site is about an interest and the people on these sites share your interest, unlike facebook or dating sites where the intention is to meet people and be social, but random people come there and are less likely to share interests. Anyway I never told this girl about it and things happened, including my best friend on the internet falling in love with her, but he was more open about it sending her poems to the point where she blocked him and he got me to send messages between them until she blocked me too and eventually neither of us have seen her since, and yes when I am older I might make a movie out of this, or atleast a book. So yeah I think gaming might be very important for me. At the least I am automatically attracted to gamer girls. Sure there are a few extra guidelines, not be religious, not be the kind of person who wants children immediatly (Im not sure I want children ever) not be stupid, etc. etc.

Also Commodor, when do you make your Weekly Wringers? Since it is just a straight cut with little editing besides adding text, I imagine it is the day of posting, but for those of us who might come in late, here is an idea, post in the comments when you have posted so someone dosen't come in late and posts a well thought out post just to have you never read it.

Maybe, but I sure as hell wouldn't date a super gamer like I've done in the past. Back about 4 or 5 years ago when I was in highschool I started dating a girl ( which aparently happens in those places) who absolutely loved videogames, she played in the morning before school, right after homework, while calling me etc. Little did I know that the whole relationship was a ruse for her to get a free copy of both  LoZ Twilight Princess (which fine I got her for christmas) but also a game I bought myself FF12.  She literally did a long play of about 6 months to just wait for some sucker (in this case... me) to come along take the bait ( Damn you C cups damn you to hell! You too hormones!) and then land her bounty. 

So yeah I'd prefer someone who doesn't love games that much... or I'd just prefer not seeing her... again.  It would be nice, but I have other interests aside from gaming. I think if anything I'd want someone who tolerated both comic books and table top wargaming (rp included.)

side note: I eventually rebought FF12 meaning I spent over 120 dollars on that game so don't even talk to me how you didn't feel like you got your money's worth...

Sonicrose, you should call me sometime. *wink wink*

Unless you're jailbait.

@Sonicrose: Well, as to answer your stuff, you shouldn't take as a prereq that the other one is christian, but tolerant towards christian.

And I don't think it is a problem at all if someone beats other one, regardless of gender.

It is a thing of fair challenge, and I would be happy to have a girlfriend that challenges me on some levels :).

I am in general a guy who is fair in every square.

By the way, every male human who can't stand losing against a girl has some problems with his manlihood ;).

Some people simply prefer that they date people of the same religion, race or ethnic type. So to Sonicrose, being a Christian is a requirement.

That's just being blind, sorry, my opinion.

It's just knowing what you're looking for in a partner.

For instance, I'm very politically aware and active in the Democratic Party. Therefore, I'll never marry a Republican. Maybe that's "blind," but I will not marry someone who feels that way about the world.

Most gamers want an otaku who looks and screws like a porn star. It isn't going to happen. But that's what they're looking for. Maybe that's blind, but it happens.

No, being blind is saying: A republican will think like I do, or a guy from the same religion or ethnic groups thinks like I do, so I prefer them over others.

You can't judge people about that, you can only judge them by their personality, which is not defined by religion or ethnic group or whatever.

She has no intention of judging anyone. She simply knows what she wants. That doesn't make her blind.